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Emotional Intelligence, That Other Kind of Smartness, you Need to Succeed Personally & Professionally

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In professional life traditionally there has been an uneven focus on IQ- intellectual quotients, EQ – emotional quotients and CQ- Curiosity Quotient, where CQ is been looked at as “The Ultimate Tool for Global Business

Emotional intelligence, the intangible asset, reflects in ways how you manage your behavior, handle social responsibilities, and make decisions to attain positive results. There is no proven or visible connection between IQ and emotional intelligence as one cannot predict emotional intelligence based on how smart a professional or an employee is. Intelligence, as defined, is an individual’s ability to learn which nearly remains constant at age 15 and at age 50 as well. However; emotional intelligence, is a supple skill set that tends to improve, with practice, as time passes. We may find people who are emotionally intelligent from birth while some other might have developed this skill over years.

Intellectual Quotients(EQ) & Emotional Quotients (CQ)

Let’s discuss various ways of channelizing your emotions to succeed.

Most of us never acknowledge our feelings. In fact, most of the times we are probably ashamed of accepting how we feel. Many of you will agree to this, that before you express yourself, the first thing that comes to your mind is what will people think? If I say what I feel, will it be acceptable to the society? You are hence bounded by the norms of society. So here, you stop listening to your heart and start following what the society thinks is right.

“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart” –Helen Keller

Hence, start feeling, understanding, accepting and acknowledging your emotions. Being in charge of your emotions and channelizing them well can definitely give you a positive energy and lead you to success. How? Here are some tips.

  • When in doubt, listen to your heart
    It is important to understand that feelings are natural. Never doubt your feelings or think that you shouldn’t feel in a certain way. Instead of cursing yourself for feeling in a certain way, accept your emotions, listen to your heart and choose how to react with your head firmly placed on your shoulders.
  • Understand how you feel, but be in control of how you react
    As mentioned earlier emotions are natural, it is, important to understand how you feel and to be expressive. However, beware and do not become a slave to these emotions. Do not try to regulate your feelings, but yes control how to react to these feelings. Try to do things that influence your mood and direct your energies towards constructive activities. If you want to change the way you feel, change the way you think.
  • Venting out is not actually the right way out
    Yes! Venting out, throwing things, punching a pillow or shouting out abuses is not the right way to demonstrate how you feel. It will only increase your angst and add fuel to the fire. In such cases, going for a brisk walk, deep breathing, trying to think about something good and trying to alter your mood is the best way out.  Stuffing or suppressing these negative emotions is not a sign of weakness, in-fact it is a sign of strength.
  • Be in control of your space and your personal environment
    Be in control of your environment. You will experience a range of different emotions throughout the day, so learn to regulate them, and if adverse circumstances build up, put in efforts to lighten things up. Resort to activities that help you feel better.
  • Don’t let others remote control your emotions
    Do not become the puppet in others hands. If you let, the words and actions of others influence your emotions and hence your behavior, then others might use this as a weapon against you. So stay away from whiners, and tackle people who want to manipulate you with firmness.
  • Do not avoid confrontation in uncomfortable situations
    If you feel in a certain way about someone of something, be sure that you communicate it with clarity. Communicate exactly how you feel and leave no scope for misunderstanding. If the situation is adverse or uncomfortable, communication becomes all the more important. People who do not communicate cannot put forth exactly what they want and hence cannot make things happen in their favor.
  • Channelize your emotions
    Well, feeling strongly about something, and showing anger towards something wrong, is necessary. Anger when channelized well, can influence change in the right direction. Hence, use your emotions, in a proactive manner.
  • Use your emotions to your strengths
    Being aware of your feelings, and using them to your strength can help your introduce yourself as a person who cares a whole lot about things. Expressing emotions in the right manner will hence help you move up the success ladder.

Being aware of your feelings and understanding your emotions is not easy as it sounds. It takes a great deal of efforts. However, putting in these efforts can definitely channelize your emotions and lead you to success in your professional and personal life.

Chirag Shivalker
About the Author: Chirag Shivalker heads the Content team at Hi-Tech iSolutions LLP. He has a long history in the BPM space and covers wide range of topics on BPM, Enterprise 2.0 and technology trends in business. He also enjoys writing about how active leadership and development plans can pave path for a process aware organizational culture that helps successful and sustainable process – based management.